tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095763.post7743878018553975956..comments2023-10-11T22:49:40.128-03:00Comments on emerging sideways...: parental bootcampbobbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09236324338161051924noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095763.post-83328347683089992712007-05-25T12:07:00.000-03:002007-05-25T12:07:00.000-03:00You are very wise to realize your daughter will ne...You are very wise to realize your daughter will need other adults in her life. I pray God brings the right ones across her path. I also pray for wisdom for you in this new era of your lives together.Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08168170797649139322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095763.post-82260063497033562292007-05-12T21:09:00.000-03:002007-05-12T21:09:00.000-03:00Oh, bobbie, I'm right here with you--and right HER...Oh, bobbie, I'm right here with you--and right HERE in the thick of it with three teen daughers!<BR/><BR/>I read "Reviving Ophelia" when Em was 12, and it helped me immensely. "Ophelia Speaks" was next, and broke my heart for all teen girls. <BR/><BR/>she has to learn to paddle her own boat--because if both of you trying to steer, what happens then?<BR/><BR/>LovelovelovePatchoulihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08681032095827529717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095763.post-24774879978143467932007-05-11T20:41:00.000-03:002007-05-11T20:41:00.000-03:00I'm ten years ahead of you on this one (mine are 2...I'm ten years ahead of you on this one (mine are 21, 20 & 18), so I hope you can trust me.<BR/><BR/>God will continue to help your own prodigious growth and insight you have already attained. It will be different for your children than for you. It is *already* different for your children.<BR/><BR/>Keep handing over to them the responsibility for their own lives, bit by bit. The key is honesty. If you don't know what is appropriate in a situation with your kids, tell them you don't know. It's ok. You already know how to apologize when you blow it; keep it up.<BR/><BR/>Finally, and I think you already know this too, it helped me a lot to understand that there is a huge surge of brain growth at about age 14, again, though not so much, at about age 17, and yet again about age 20-22. {There's a reason why you can't rent a car until you're 25 :) } We can manage ok and do many things throughout our teenage years, but our mental capabilities don't really finish forming until mid-20s.<BR/><BR/>You'll make it. Hugs to you.<BR/>Dana AmesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095763.post-34872684641119397142007-05-11T15:55:00.000-03:002007-05-11T15:55:00.000-03:00I remember telling only daughter when she was 9 th...I remember telling only daughter when she was 9 that I wouldn't have a rebellious daughter. She looked at me quite calmly and said, "You already do." Oh man, it pissed me off. So much so that I spent years trying to squash her spirit. It was all about me back then. How I wish she had had the freedom to push against me in healthy, out in the open ways. Not that I would have liked it but in hindsight it would have been healthier. <BR/>Pink's kicking against you is the healthiest thing she can do. It means she is on the road to becoming her own person. Hard to celebrate in the here and now, I know.<BR/>But take heart my dear friend. You will both get through it. Your awareness is amazing and something to celebrate. Pink is blessed to have a mother with a heart like yours. You rock!!Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02045801745534184703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7095763.post-39797243929256569392007-05-11T11:22:00.000-03:002007-05-11T11:22:00.000-03:00You're right...it is hard and it is worth it! We'r...You're right...it is hard and it is worth it! We're doing the young adult thing now. My oldest will be 21 before long. Two of his friends turn 21 this weekend and I'm not very happy about it ;-) Each stage involves more and more letting go. You would think it would get easier but some days it just doesn't seem to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com